Kaley Cuoco cried for 2 weeks after turning 40. But there are upsides.
- - Kaley Cuoco cried for 2 weeks after turning 40. But there are upsides.
Taryn RyderJanuary 28, 2026 at 11:00 PM
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Kaley Cuoco talks to Yahoo about turning 40, motherhood and why "Vanished" was worth leaving home. (Photo illustration: Anna Kim for Yahoo News; photo: JC Olivera/Variety via Getty Images)
Anyone who has turned 40 knows the milestone birthday can be equal parts exciting and daunting. For Kaley Cuoco, it meant crying “for two weeks straight.”
“There was something around turning 40 that was very emotional for me,” she tells Yahoo. “Not because I turned 40 … but it was a little bit of a mind f***. There, I said it.”
One of the perks of getting older, Cuoco says, is having a clearer sense of how you want to spend your time. That perspective helped shape her decision to take on Vanished, the mystery thriller she stars in and executive produces — and one she nearly passed on because it meant leaving her young daughter for the first time.
“Having this adventure across the world made me nervous,” she admits. “My decisions now ... they affect her in a way I didn't know before. I didn’t know if I could do this, but my partner was amazing.”
Cuoco is engaged to Ozark and Task star Tom Pelphrey; they share daughter Matilda Carmine Richie Pelphrey, who turns 3 in March. “My fiancé encouraged me to go have this French adventure. And I did.”
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Vanished centers on Alice, an archaeologist whose getaway to Paris with her boyfriend spirals into a nightmare when he disappears during a train trip through France. As she searches for him, Alice is forced to confront a terrifying possibility: that the person she loves — and the life she thought she understood — may not be what it seemed. The series premieres on MGM+ on Feb. 1.
For Cuoco, that sense of destabilization was exactly the point.
“When you get to the end, you realize: Something like this could happen,” she says. “Maybe you don’t really know who you’re with. ... That terrified me.”
The role also came with an unexpected personal coincidence: Alice’s missing boyfriend is named Tom (played by Sam Claflin) — the same name as Cuoco’s real-life partner. For much of the first three episodes, Alice is left repeating some version of the same question: What the f***, Tom?
When asked whether the overlap ever bled into real life — cursing “Tom” around the house — Cuoco laughs. It wasn’t intentional, she stresses, and she briefly considered changing the name because it felt so close to home. Ultimately, she didn’t.
“There were moments where I had to get really deep emotionally, and just saying the name Tom made me so emotional,” she says. “It actually helped me tap into something real. If I missed him or something like that, just saying his name felt very familiar.”
As for her other “Tom,” Cuoco says working opposite Claflin felt easy from the start. “I love Sam,” she says of the actor best known for roles in the Hunger Games franchise, Peaky Blinders and Daisy Jones & the Six. “He doesn’t take himself seriously at all, which I don’t either. We found a real kinship there.”
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Their time on set was filled with laughter and, unexpectedly, conversations about parenthood — a surreal turn Cuoco didn’t take for granted. “We’d be talking about our kids on this set in Paris, and I kept thinking, Did you imagine 10 years ago we’d be here having these conversations?” she says. “It’s ridiculous in the best way.”
Working opposite Claflin also helped create a safe and respectful environment on set when it came to intimate scenes. Cuoco has spoken previously about becoming more selective with those moments.
“He’s such a pro,” she says. “He was always like, ‘What are you comfortable with?’” She adds that Claflin had more experience filming those scenes than she did — something that, rather than intimidating her, made the process feel more grounded. “I actually haven’t done that many.”
“What people don’t understand about those scenes is they’re so mapped out — it’s almost like a dance,” Cuoco explains. “Every hand, every movement, everything is planned. That’s not the scene where you want to just see what happens.”
Looking back to working with John Ritter ... I learned what it was to be a person on set — to be a leader, to be a kind.
Despite how they’re often perceived onscreen, those moments are anything but romantic. “It’s the least sexy thing you could ever do,” she says. “Sometimes it’s super uncomfortable, and the way you shoot it and everything can be really weird.”
Still, the structure and communication made the work feel manageable. “We’re professionals,” Cuoco says. “We’ve been doing this for so long. At the end of the day, it’s another day at work.”
It’s a reminder of just how much of her life Cuoco has spent on set.
She was just 20 years old when The Big Bang Theory premiered, a realization that recently stopped her in her tracks. “That rocked my freaking mind.”
The experience spanned more than a decade of her life, and more than a few evolutions along the way. “That was 12 years,” Cuoco adds, laughing. “A lot of hairstyles. A lot of different denim cuts. We went from low-rise ass crack out to the highest-waisted over my tits. The amount of change from [age] 20 to 30 is wild.”
Jokes aside, Cuoco says The Big Bang Theory, which ended in 2019, “will forever be a huge part of my life.”
“It’s the reason everything happened after, professionally,” she continues.
While reflecting on growing up in the industry, Cuoco points to one person in particular who shaped the way she works today.
“Looking back to working with John Ritter — which was the most changing experience in my career — I learned what it was to be a person on set. To be a leader. To be kind. To remember how many people it takes to make you look good. To be gracious. To be inclusive,” she says of her 8 Simple Rules costar. “I learned that at a very young age, and it’s become extremely important to me, especially now that I’m able to produce things.”
Producing The Flight Attendant was another turning point, offering her a firsthand look at the machinery behind a show. “As actors, we get the accolades, but there are hundreds of people making it work,” she says. “These jobs are hard. They’re long hours. They’re away from families. That gives you empathy.”
Empathy — for her crew, her collaborators and herself — is what defines this stage of Cuoco’s career. The actress says she’s always been good at being herself, on and off set, but turning 40 brought a deeper sense of ease.
“You just don’t know what you don’t know at 20, or even 30,” she says. “Now I’m like, who cares? I know so much more. We had a kid so much later than some people, and I think that was the right thing for me. I don’t know if I could have handled it back then. I feel like a different person now — and like I’ve lived more of a life.”
Source: “AOL Entertainment”
